Like anything we do in life, preparation is the key.
When you decided to walk down the aisle, you spent weeks, if not months choosing the right gown. Hours of contemplation went into picking the venue, the flowers and food served to your guest. Where your guests will sit and who is on their table. Even the honeymoon was something you had dreamt of or researched for a considerable time. These points are all majorly important to a successful outcome. The planning executed to a tee helping make your wedding day such a memorable occasion. Limiting stress and the chances of anything untoward happening to ruin your special event. You did everything possible to prevent the dangers of anything going wrong.
Then came the kids. On confirmation of the two blue lines on the pregnancy stick, your thoughts went into a positive result. Giving up your favourite vices to grow a healthy human. The colour and decoration of the room. Bags packed, having chosen a boys and girls name in preparation for either sex. And most importantly, you picked the best doctor and hospital, to bring your new precious bundle of joy into the world. You did everything possible to prevent the dangers of anything going wrong.
For years everything was beautiful, then one day you woke up, knowing something had changed forever. The preparation and tireless commitment that went into working hard, raising your family and building a life now seemed over and a sense of dread and a feeling deep in your stomach reminding you of everything you could lose. The terror of what could go wrong and how the love your partner once felt for you. Now turning to hate and disdain, evident by the comments and the lack of respect shown by your partner.
The decision is made and moving on the only way possible to improve your life.
But how to address the dangers, you never thought to prepare yourself for? Where do you start in getting ready to end a relationship which has brought you, such love & happiness? How do you prepare for the worst? Where do you start with such a process? Or that internal argument, are you making the correct decision with so much on the line? The only person who can answer these questions is you, with the guidance of a supportive and informative team of professionals. Just like the preparation you put into the other major events in your life. Get equipped!
The definition of Prepared is; the action or process of making something ready. To service or of getting ready for some occasion, test, or duty. Precisely what you are doing, getting prepared for the unforeseen within your relationship, protecting yourself to the best of your ability. This way you can control some of the outcomes and help to build a secure future.
The person you once knew better than yourself can turn into a Doctor Jekyll and Mr/Mrs Hyde. You have no idea who you might be talking to at any given time. So be smart, consider all possible reactions of your partner and have a plan B.
So where do you start?
With such a task given the complexity of your life? Deciding that this is what you want, you must begin to put away evidence to support your life thus far. How much you brought into the relationship and the time and money spent building your life. Put together a comprehensive timeline, starting from the commencement of your courtship, until now. Include all significant events and occurrences along the way. Such as; job promotions, children, moving homes, considerable life changes like inheritance or financial win falls. And even negative issues which may have affected your family life. This timeline paints a picture your lawyer and can be used to visualise your life.
Start compiling bank statements, superannuation, wage agreements, property purchases, school fees, tax returns, etc. All this information is essential for your team to help with your entitlements. If you are struggling to know where to start, I have a resource, 23 Essential items to protect yourself financially during divorce to help address areas of concern for our clients. This list was compiled as a risk mitigation strategy. For essential matters, people had forgotten to think of or didn’t even consider important. I can tell you that every item on this list crucial to your successful divorce and to protect your future.
The dangers of not being prepared means a lawyer can justify a higher fee.
As they need to do a fact-finding search and compile your life history. It can save you serious coin if you do this work for them. Meaning your financial agreement could suffer because you can’t support the expectations. Just like your wedding ceremony, do your due diligence. Have everything arranged before you leave your relationship. You wouldn’t go to a job interview without researching the company, and the job requirements. If you turned up unprepared, there is little chance of success.
Being naive and unprepared at this time could be the worst mistake you have ever made.
About the Author:
Tanya Somerton is the ‘Divorce Angel’, whose business is to facilitate a seamless and amicable divorce and separation with the aid of her ‘Army of Angels.’ Tanya provides a step by step process which limits cost and conflict that sees you achieving your most financially beneficial outcome possible, now and for the future.
She is also the author of The Jelly Bean Jar – Empowering independence through Divorce. If you are looking to prevent any mistakes and save money this book is a must. Purchase your copy http://tanyasomerton.com/shop/the-jelly-bean-jar/
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